There’s something strange that occurs when you flip on the “anger” switch in someone that you love or care about.
A lot of us haven’t seen it yet.
But if you’re like me and you’ve seen it too many times, you know it’s different with every person.
And it hurts.
But if you really want to know someone, and potentially how your future will be, get them mad.
Get them mad to see how they react, but more importantly how they treat you, because a person’s true colors and character reveal themselves when they’re mad.
Are they packing up and leaving as soon as they get mad?
Are they abusive or violent?
Are they pulling the sympathy card?
Are they irrational or mean?
Pay attention to the things that come out of their mouths, because you don’t want to be with someone who is aggressive, abusive, or harms themselves every time something goes down. Because really, there’s a lot of downs in life. And being someone like that is very unhealthy and not good for you.
You may find out that the person you thought you cared for is actually quite toxic.
By getting them mad, you expose the part of them that they keep under wraps, but that actually says a lot about them.
I focus on how I can help the people who made me angry, or how I can help those affected by the person.
I don’t leave a single second for myself to be hateful.
But some people do. I’ve experienced it too many times to count.
So let me give you all some pointers.
You want to be with someone that will communicate their emotions to you in a calm matter, even when they’re angry or hurt.
They should be able to talk through your problems and handle them calmly.
“We’ll worry about that later.” IS NOT OKAY.
You don’t want to be with someone who is petty and out of control. You don’t want to be with someone who threatens suicide every time you fight. You don’t want to be with someone who can’t keep the argument between the two of you only. You don’t want to be with someone who aggressive or has someone threaten to lay their hands on you.
You don’t want to be with someone who is angry with you, over something that’s not illogical, and makes you apologize.
You don’t want any of that. Trust me.
The key is to be with someone who will still care about you when they’re angry.
Someone who will work things out instead of jumping down your throat.
If you really want to know someone, get them mad, because that is the best judge of character.