The worst part of being a Christian…..seeing the fake ones try to pull it off.
If you just squinted your eyebrows, please understand that I am a Christian.
I’m not just an Easter and Christmas Christian. I’m not the Christian who only thinks Scripture is good for Instagram selfies. I’m hardcore. I’ve read through the Bible cover to cover more times than I’ve binged on Back to the Future, and trust me, that’s a lot. I attend church, I’ve been baptized. This isn’t me saying I’m “more Christian” than anyone. This is me explaining that this isn’t about to be some criticism of the Church from an outsider.
So I hope we can be adults here and have a real conversation: Oftentimes, Christians are fake, and it’s a turn off.
When I first decided I was really going to do this religion thing I too thought that this meant I had to be perfect. Time-hop will graciously show me my old status updates and I legit want to throw up in my mouth each time. I was like a sugar-coated peep dipped in caramel then slathered in chocolate icing: too sweet. No one’s buying that.
I didn’t want anyone to question whether or not I had a sincere relationship with God, and so I tried to say the right thing, at all times, and even felt a need to prove to people that I was a good person.
Somewhere along the way I think God was like, “K girl. Chill out,” and I went through the strangely difficult process of allowing myself to be who I actually am.
I tried to be the perfect Christian, and it turns out that God just needed me to be myself.
I know I am not alone in this because hello Newsfeed! I see it all the time. Christians trying to outdo one another in their Christian-dom. Everyone pretending they have it all together. Making sure that every good deed doesn’t go without a notification and photo-op. But look fam, that’s not who Christ was. The Bible says to give in such a way that your left hand doesn’t know what your right hand has done. Christ didn’t wait till there was a crowd to begin his sermon. He would get so lost in this compelling conversation with one person that others gathered. I had a professor who told me once that no one is ever converted from the pulpit.
If you want to make an impact you have to get off the stage and start having some real conversations, with some real people, as the real you.
You don’t have to post photos of your Bible or Hebrew tattoo to prove to people you like Jesus. Just be kind and respectful. Give to people who need it. Spend your energy trying to boost others, rather than looking for ways for others to boost you.
Live in such a humble, gracious, loving way that people just want to be next to you. All different types of people. Not just other Christian people. (Because PS. That’s how that works.)
Whenever we try too hard to convince others of something, I worry that we are actually trying to convince ourselves. I have spent the last couple years focusing on showing God who I am, rather than other people. I’d say that it was easy, but it wasn’t. My natural instinct is to love the crowd, the compliments and attention. But if you read through the Gospels, you will find very quickly that Christ actually let himself get lost in a crowd, wasn’t looking for compliments, and never sought out attention. The man was the embodiment of humility and if anyone should have acted like they walked on water….uh well…Christ!
So stop faking it. Stop with the awkward sermonizing of pain. Stop smiling to people’s faces if you are going to whisper behind their backs.
Stop pretending like your marriage is perfect. Don’t get me wrong, I’m OBSESSED with finding a seemingly perfect husband. But I’d be lying if I said he existed.
Stop the holier than thou spiel. Stop the hypocrisy. Stop pretending like you have never stubbed your toe and dropped an expletive (shut up we are all sinners).